Adoption talk

The progress in growing our family is moving slowly.   In June I shared that we expressed interest in a sibling group of three young girls and inspite of the busy, busy week long placement of the 2 different young children last month we were still excited to learn more about the sibling group.   Not entirely sure we want to go back to having toddlers and preschoolers but we are still open to considering it.   We just found out last week that indeed the Children's Aid was moving foward with a local family for the sibling group.   We were just too much of a distance to be considered a good match.  Since the siblings were not yet crown wards but instead a foster with a view to adopt situation there would have been twice weekly trips two hours away for at least one year. 

It was a bit of a blow and we took a few days to let the wound heal.   Grieving the loss of what could have been.  I understand the reasoning and the travel certainly would have not been in their best interest.  Despite that it is something we have to move forward from and that is not always easy. 

Patience in this is hard and equally difficult is trusting that there may be more opportunities in the future.  It is often difficult for people to believe that adopting older children and beyond that adopting children of sibling groups more than two still takes a long time.  It is hard to imagine a family who has been approved to adopt, thus being picked apart and judged to be a "good" family, having to wait 4 or more years despite being interested in adopting 2 or more siblings into school-ages.  It happens a lot.  No doubt there are families who are approved to adopt and opportunities happen within the first year but that is not certainly the norm.

We are just approaching one year since I made the first contact with our local CAS and only a couple of months since our adopt eligibility so we most likely have a long road ahead.  It would be nice if the right situation came along more quickly but for now I am grateful for our family as it is and will continue to strive for patience in this process.